It’s only fair that I start this article by disclosing the fact that I’m not a Democrat nor am I a Republican. I spend very little time watching the news or reading about politics in the paper, but when I do, I’m shocked at how our politicians pay so little attention to something as important as their likeability.
You may have seen or read the most recent article in POLITICO that came out today concerning the approval rating of the Speaker of the House, Nancy Pelosi. The numbers were terrible. This is what she had to say about them to POLITICO.
House Speaker Nancy Pelosi is one of the most despised political figures in the country.
And, frankly, she doesn’t give a damn.
“No, I don’t care,” Pelosi told POLITICO last Thursday, laughing heartily as she walked beneath the Capitol dome and plunged into a crowd of tourists …
… “I certainly want to be trusted. I’m not particularly concerned if I’m liked.”
A Human Being First
Let me start by telling you that Nancy Pelosi is a human being first and a politician next. And even though she said, “I’m not particularly concerned if I’m liked,” she does care if she’s liked. Everyone cares. But like most people who have had their feelings hurt, she decided to tell the public that it doesn’t matter to her … when it does.
What Happens When You Tell People Their Opinion Doesn’t Matter?
Making that statement is just one more way to be seen as unlikeable. When you tell people that you don’t care if they like you, what you’re implying is that they are not important enough for you to care what they think. And when you tell people that they are not important, they are not going to like you.
There are over a dozen things I would suggest to Nancy Pelosi to improve her likeability, and I’m going to start with this suggestion.
You Do Care
Reach out to the public and tell them how you really feel. Tell them that you do care if they like you and that their opinion of you is important. Tell them that it hurts your feelings to know that people don’t like you and that you’re going to work on being more likable. Let them know that you understand that even though the majority of the public many hold a different political opinion than yours, you still care about them and what they think about you as a person. And then (here comes the hard part) don ‘t say another word on the subject. Don’t give a reason or an excuse or try to explain why you said what you said other than to admit that you do care what the citizens of the United States think.
The Bad News: Nancy Pelosi has a massive likeability problem with the majority of Americans.
The Good News: She can become more likable without giving up her liberal values.
Take a look at the characteristics of likable people and rate the Speaker of the House in each category. Please come back to this post and leave you comment on what you think she can do to improve her likability. I will forward your comment onto the Speaker of the House.
Aloha, Bob Sommers
The Likeability Guy